But the BEST advice was given to me by a dear friend, and mother of eight, and it made a WORLD of difference. It is this:
- Don't dread the nighttime wake-ups. Use that time to pray and be thankful! These are weapons against the enemy. Satan wants us to live in fear and grumbling. Instead we can redeem that time by enjoying our little one, because that time will be over sooner than we expect!
- Use that time to pray:
- for their salvation and their future spouse,
- for wisdom in parenting,
- for our husbands,
- that God would help us be better wives, mothers, friends and daughters!
- Say prayers of thankfulness
- thanking God that you are awake at that moment,
- that you are tired because you have this child,
- that you are in a warm home with breakfast awaiting you in the morning.
When I went to bed at night with this frame of mind, instead of fearing the nighttime wake-ups, it made those middle-of-the-night times blessed, instead of miserable. I was usually still tired, but I chose to be thankful. And I have had to reset my thinking a number of times. Sometimes our little guy will sleep through the night for a while but then start waking up again and I'll have to remind myself all over again of my friend's wise advice. And it always makes the whole situation much better.
Do you have a best piece of advice for those with newborns?